Couple during their Hawaii elopement captured by Masha Sakhno Photo.
Hawaii elopement; Masha Sakhno Photo

Eloping can be a romantic and intimate way to get married, but telling your family and friends can be nerve-wracking. Wondering how to tell your family you are eloping without hurting anyone's feelings or causing drama? Here are some tips to help you break the news in a casual, yet respectful manner.

Choose the right timing

When it comes to delivering big news, timing is everything. You don't want to tell your family and friends during a stressful time, such as a family crisis or the holidays. Wait until you both feel calm and collected, and choose a time when your loved ones are likely to be in a good mood.

Use a personal touch

Consider sending out a personal note or email to your closest friends and family members. This is a thoughtful way to let them know what you're planning and it gives them a chance to process the news in their own time.

Be honest and direct

When speaking with your family and friends, be honest and direct about your plans to elope. Explain why you've chosen this route and that it's not because you don't value their love and support. But don't sugarcoat it either! Stay strong in your decision.

Emphasize the romance

Let your family and friends know that your decision to elope is rooted in love and romance. Share with them your excitement about this new chapter in your life and how you can't wait to start your journey together.

Offer a compromise

Some family members may be disappointed that they won't be able to attend your wedding. Offer them a compromise, such as having a reception when you return from your elopement, or having a video call during the ceremony so they can feel a part of it.

Don't take it personally

It's important to remember that everyone processes news differently. Some of your loved ones may be supportive, while others may take a little longer to come around. Don't take any negative reactions personally, and be understanding if some people need time to process the news.

Eloping is a special and meaningful way to start your life together, and with the right approach, you can share the news with your family and friends in a way that is respectful and considerate.

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